Hazel, after looking over the emails we’ve been getting, I figured it was time to answer some of them. So I randomly selected one. The question and my answer and advice are below. You’re welcome to chime in with your opinions about it.

sexy waiter

Hi Adeline and Hazel, Yesterday I had lunch with some co-workers at a restaurant near our office. There was a new waiter there, and he was drop-dead gorgeous. I mean, you could see the muscles through his shirt, and his smile blew me away. He was hot. I can’t get him off my mind, and I feel guilty because I love my husband. Am I being unfaithful by thinking about the hot waiter so much?

What do you think? Preoccupied in Pennsylvania

Well PP… No that doesn’t sound very nice. Let me start over. Well, Preoccupied, I think it’s simple. Just because you WANT a candy bar doesn’t mean you’re going to eat one. Just because you see a new pair of to-die-for shoes doesn’t mean you’re going to throw out your old ones. Just because you think about killing the jerk who cut you off in traffic doesn’t mean you’re going to. Just because . . . well, you get the point.

Looking at and thinking about something you like is not a bad thing. Admire Mr. Hot Waiter from afar, and when you and hubby are doing the horizontal tango, you can fantasize about him. Your husband will thank you. Well, he’ll thank you as long as you don’t tell him it wasn’t exactly him who got you so hot and bothered.

Now that I think about it, I wouldn’t want my husband fantasizing about another woman when we’re having sex. Maybe Hazel will know exactly what you should do. Hazel?
Adeline


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