newly divorced, suddenly single, alone

Without going into any details, I will admit that I’ve been “suddenly single” more than once. Once when I was at loose ends and didn’t know where to start in getting back out in the world again, a friend made a suggestion that made all the difference in the world to me. Here it is:

  1. Get a large calendar - not a measly little pocket calendar but a big one that won’t be lost easily - one that will hold lots of information.
  2. Buy a copy of the Sunday newspaper - or whichever edition has a listing of community activities and classes.
  3. Go through the newspaper and look for festivals, classes, events and other activities that are of interest to you. Want to learn to dance? Sign up for a class. Want to meet other singles? Look for a “divorce adjustment” class. Want to learn something new? Check out community classes, look for book discussion groups or a writers group. Want to become more physically active? Find a walking group, or a golf group or whatever. Larger churches often have excellent divorce care classes where you can meet other folks who know what you’re going through.
  4. Put the dates and times of those activities on your calendar.
  5. Follow through by going to the things you’ve placed on your calendar.

You don’t have to go alone although it’s okay to go by yourself. Call another single or married friend to go with you. You may have to go outside your comfort zone, but each time you do it, your comfort zone increases. And that’s the point.

The important thing is to get out and live life, do what you enjoy and not sit at home moping and feeling sorry for yourself.

I am a living, breathing success story of this method of overcoming a “suddenly single” depression. It works.
Suddenly Single newly divorced

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